Archive for March, 2012


Clowning Around


Wow…it’s been almost three weeks! Sorry! I took on a new role at work, and it’s making me exhausted at night! I’m doing my best to fit it all in. Hmm…good idea…
Anyway, a couple weeks ago I picked Mason up from daycare. His provider said she had trouble buttoning his overalls, so I took the liberty of fixing the issue when I got home. What I created was a clown-pants catastrophe. Mason wouldn’t stop fidgeting and wouldn’t let me take his hat off, either. I flipped on the TV so he could watch some DVR’d Chuggington and stay still. I saw him standing in his client glory and couldn’t resist. Damn you, snap buttons!


7 Ways Dads Can Bond With Young Kids

You’d think with the number of books that sit on shelves at every bookstore (and iBooks in the iTunes store) detailing ways to be a great father, we’d all have this parenting thing down pat. Yet, every day, new dads continually scratch their heads so often, bald spots develop (that’s my defense, what’s yours?). When Mason was in utero, I had no idea what I was going to do, and I sure as heck didn’t have an idea when he was born, either, despite Armin Brott’s “The Expectant Father.” Some things in life were meant to be learned on the fly. I knew this when I saw Mason had no instruction manual attached to his heinie.

As a new parent, bonding is the most important thing you can do with your child. We all know this. But as fathers, we may be somewhat in the clouds trying to figure out just what it is we do to bond. We can’t breastfeed (thank goodness). We can’t birth the child (another thank goodness). This motherly concept on instant bonding is, well…motherly! Seeing Mason for the first time did bring instant love, but it also brought this.

Have no fear, new daddies. There are several ways you can bond with your new bundles of joy, and it’s all via everyday activities. These activities aren’t just for newborns, either! Mason is 16 months old, and all seven of the activities I’m about to mention still apply. Make time every day for some of these, and you’ll soon find your children to be as enamored with you as you are with them.

1. Talk To Your Kids

This is by far the easiest thing you can do to bond with your kids. It doesn’t matter if they are asleep or awake, whether they can talk or not. Tell them what you’re doing. Tell them what they’re doing. Tell them what you think of the local sports team (keep it clean)! The sound of Mommy’s and Daddy’s voice is soothing for wee ones. Eventually, talking will become habit. You’ll know you’re doing a good job if this happens.

2. Snuggle Your Buggle

Physical bonding calms both child and parent. In the first days and weeks after birth, skin-to-skin contact helps relieve everything from sleeplessness to colic to discomfort…all because of your warm skin and heartbeat! Plus, it makes for super naps! Without physical affection, you’re missing out of half of the love you can show your child. Take note, dads of little boys: it’s not just for the girls. gender makes no difference this early on. Snuggle like the dryer sheet bear!

3. Fill Their Tummies

Just because Mommy is breastfeeding doesn’t mean you’re off the hook. Most breastfeeding moms pump and store milk for future consumption, and your hands hold the bottle just fine. Feeding and burping an infant helps you know how much food is enough, and whether or not your child is gassy. With infants, even the tiniest amount of gas is extremely discomforting to them. Don’t make them suffer.

For older infants/toddlers, spoon feeding builds trust and helps kids learn where their mouths are so they can feed themselves. At some point, children will lead by your example. That’s right, Daddy…eat the peas.

4. Freshen Your Baby Up

Before I got used to the stench of Mason's poop, every diaper change used two diapers.

Diaper changing is by far the most annoying task a parent can be charged with. Nonetheless, there’s no negotiation on doing it. Admittedly, I get into funks when I seem to avoid it. It’s something I need to work on. Poop happens.
Diaper changing is a very volatile time for little ones, so it’s a great bonding activity. Trust is earned, and there’s a sense of satisfaction and gratitude from babies when a fresh diaper is fastened. Toddlers, on the other hand…not so much, at least from my experience!

5. Enjoy Tubby Time

Early on, baths are quick and tedious. Newborns and early infants don’t do much in the tub/sink. As they grow, however, they learn to splash, spill and play with toys! This is a great time to be imaginative and have an ocean adventure! Get some squirt toys for added fun! Of course, make sure all the nooks and crannies are cleaned in the process. Your little one will thank you as they learn good hygiene!

6. Be A Bookworm

I’ve posted on this previously. While early attempts at reading can be frustrating, it’s pretty much cemented that reading to kids early on makes a huge impact on learning for a lifetime. Thanks to unrealistic advertisements, we all have this mental picture of perfect snuggles with a book and a bottle. In most cases, not gonna happen. Still, read to your kids, every chance you get. If they pay attention, great! If not, keep reading. Their learning depends on it, and they’ll always remember story time with Daddy.

7. Stay And Play

When infants become mobile, chasing them and keeping them safe can get very stressful. Suddenly, there’s no time to sit and relax, or even to be productive and get things done. Little ones can become engaged with something that allows you to let your guard down and do something else…but it’s not always best (but boy is it hard to resist)! Sit on the floor and build a Mega Blok tower, or play with dolls. Bounce a ball around, or put on a puppet show (they won’t care about your acting skills). Sing songs and give them a visit from the “Tickle Monster!” When you become a part of your child’s imagination, there’s some serious bonding going on. Housework can wait.

There’s so many more opportunities for bonding out there. Start with these seven, but look for more. Your children will never get younger, and the older they get, the more you’ll treasure these early years…maybe even the diaper changes! I’ll get back to you on that.


Signs Your Child Has Been Up to No Good


I still don’t know what it was, but Mason found/made it and put it on the toilet for me to find. This I know: it’s not a raisin, but I don’t think it’s what everyone thinks it is, either. I threw it away, so I guess we’ll never know!

Conversations New Parents Have

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Before I became a parent I knew that my life would change. I knew I’d get a little less sleep, and the house would get a little messier, but I don’t think I was prepared for just how much my conversations would change as a parent. So below are some of the conversations that new parents can expect to have after baby comes along.

A New Language in Your Conversations

I’m not talking Spanish, French, or Italian…I’m referring to baby talk. Words will start to morph into cutesy sounding words. For example, the dogs become “doggies,” when they fall or bump their heads they get “ouchies,” and all sorts of syllables get added to words.

Detailed Discussions about Your Child’s Bathroom Habits

From the very first diaper, your child’s bathroom habits will often be the topic of conversation. With friends who also have babies, you’ll also find yourself discussing the bowel movements without reservation. I look forward to the day that we simply celebrate our daughter being potty trained, but new and expectant parents should be ready to discuss the poops and pees.

How’s Your Baby!?….Oh, and How Are you doing?

After you have a baby, just expect to be overlooked initially when meeting up with friends and family. I honestly didn’t see this one coming or even notice until about a month after our daughter was born.

My wife and I had been visiting with family

for about an hour when someone said, “oh, I didn’t even ask how you all were doing, how are things going?” The fact is that your new baby be the conductor on trains of thought for a while. You’ll notice that everyone in this picture here is looking at the baby, and that won’t change when you leave the hospital.  Your friends and family still care about you, don’t get me wrong, but the baby is and should be much more interesting for a while.  Just get used to it.

So as a new parent, just get ready to have your conversations go in a whole new direction. It’s not a bad thing at all, and for my wife and I it’s been an adventure. If you have any examples of your own conversations, I’d love to hear about them.

Jason Ross – A husband and father, and creator of I began blogging after my first child and wonderful daughter Abby was born. Parenting brings a lot of new challenges, great experiences and changes and I needed an outlet for that. I’m a 9-5 employee, full-time dad & husband. @ordinaryparent

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